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Consider Another’s Point of View

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We all get in conflicts and disagreements. It’s part of the beauty of this universe in that we can have our own thoughts, opinions and points of view. We are free to do so.

Before you judge someone, maybe it’s a good idea to take into account what their point of view is on something. It’s okay to simply disagree on most topics. What were they taught or what experiences have they had that brought them to their conclusions? How are these different from yours and can you see their point of view when those things are considered?

Condemnation usually comes from an uneducated enforcement of beliefs. People are often taught that their way (political party, religion, etc.) is the only true/right way to live. Some go as far as saying that any deviation from the strict adherence is wrong. How could this really be so, especially with seven billion people on Earth?

Rather than creating further rips in our already torn social fabric, try to allow others to be who they are and believe what they want while accepting them for those ideals and philosophies. Leading by exampmle in this manner will create more sanity around you and, ultimately, start receiving the same treatment in return. It is a much less stressful way of living than creating your own enemies by shutting yourself off from those who are “different” from you.

Finding your individuality among the greater community of your neighborhood, town, state, country, planet and universe, and affording others the same respect you would want in return, is a valuable trait for which you will be rewarded many times over.

The New Beginning

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Life happens in cycles. It’s all around us – in politics, fashion, economics and of course the days, weeks, months, years, decades, centuries and millenia.

This New Year marks a major turning point for many in our country and all over the world. There are new governments and leadership changes occurring, the loss of loved ones is replaced with new people enriching our lives, and the storms so many have weathered seem to be breaking up with sunshine peaking through.

With one helluva year behind us, it’s time to leave much of it in the past and move forward to create a better today and tomorrow for us all. The challenge is not only how to help make ourselves better, but also how to improve the lives of others with our actions. This has a ripple effect that can continue to create positive change that will carry on through a new era.

My wish is for you to have an amazing 2012 and to treat this as a new beginning in more ways that one. Resolutions aside, what can you do to create a positive and lasting impact on society?

The Damaged Caused by Labeling People

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Throughout man’s history, and certainly in today’s popular culture, labeling people and creating stereotypes can be a very damaging practice for both individuals and whole populations. It creates a separation, a divide, a stance “against”; whether warranted or not.

A common type of labeling that occurs today is with addictions and mental disorders. The documentary film Curing Addiction talks about some of this with regards to substance abuse. Once someone is labeled as an “addict” it can be hard for them to shake it, whether they are still one or not. This also is the case with kids who are rambunctious or very active and then labeled as having ADHD. The mental disorder labels continue on from there to include things such as PTSD, Social Anxiety Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, et. al.

In school kids tend to get labeled as being nerds, jocks, skaters, rednecks, preps, and so many others, as if their interests or activities somehow define them. In reconnecting with people over time, especially through social networks such as Facebook, most of these prior school labels seem to vanish as people grow up and recognize that we are all, well, just people. Having compassion for one’s fellow human beings doesn’t really go well with creating major classifications and divisions within society.

Religions also have a tendency to label people who don’t follow their path as somehow being “less than”, and entire wars are fought with countless lives lost. Yet we are all here ultimately trying to achieve the same broader goals, more or less. We are trying to survive and grow, to experience life through contributions, love and happiness, and to coexist peacefully.

When labels become more than just a simple adjective for lack of better description at the time, they can be extremely hurtful, and give people the wrong impression of others, as well as significantly damaging individuals’ rights. Labels like that become tools for propaganda and hate, used toward achieving some other objective that often further divides populations and creating enemies along the way.

The more people become labeled, the more often some begin to act like what they have been labeled as. The example in Curing Addiction talks about addicts who wind up believing that they are somehow diseased for life and therefore have no hope and so continue to relapse. With kids who are labeled as ADHD it can become a script they then continued to live out through adolescence and well beyond, with a “reason” for their behavior. With religions, it continues to be a way to create even greater barriers to accomplishing what their original teachers set out to do – to help their fellow man find some type of spiritual salvation for eternity.

Maybe before you try and pigeon-hole someone in your life with a label, you can take a look at what that person really is all about and what his or her true intentions and activities are in life, and see if labeling them is the right thing to do. Tolerance and understanding breeds more of the same, just as the opposite is true.

Giving Thanks – Helping Others

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Today I did something I normally don’t do – I gave money to someone on the side of the road asking for help. Usually I reserve my help and donations to working with organizations, yet today I saw a woman at an intersection with a sign. I didn’t read the whole thing, but I did she something about having four kids, and she looked sincere, as it was raining and the temperature was steadily dropping down into the forties.

I had just finished grocery shopping for the week, and had gotten $20 cash back. I reached in my pocket and pulled out that $20 bill, skipping over the single dollars I had, rolled down the window and offered it to her. She was very surprised that it was twenty bucks, and said “God bless you” and went back to the curb. To me, it was just some cash in case I needed it for something, but for her, maybe it was an extra night’s worth, or more if spent wisely, for her kids.

My eyes welled up as I drove off, not out of sadness, but instead thankfulness for what I do have. Despite any troubles or hardships I may have or have been through, I knew that I was in a good place overall. It reminded me of a conversation I had with “The Secret” author, Rhonda Byrne, a few months ago, who told me that the greatest purpose in life is to serve others in some capacity. So many great inspirational people, pastors, authors, coaches, entrepreneurs, teachers, parents and many more have proven over and again that the greatest rewards in life come not from what you get, but what you give. Ultimate success comes from this, and riches come in many forms, materially, socially and spiritually.

As the country reflected on things we are thankful for this past Thanksgiving, the absolute biggest thing I am thankful for is the inherent good in all of us and the experience of living – good times and bad. If every single one of us would figure out a way to help others in some fashion or another, our world would be a better place to live, and more people would be appreciative for what they do have while others give back after having been helped. There are times in all of our lives where we needed help and someone was there, let us not forget that as we move through the rest of the Holiday Season and on to the new year.

Getting Out from Under the Government and Debt

By now it should be pretty clear to most people that our government is not capable of responsibly spending our money. There are at least 14 trillion reasons out there today. Many of the governmental programs are also ineffective at helping people get back on their feet, and instead serve to keep them in struggling positions.

I wanted to take a moment to give a few examples of how we can restore productivity to higher levels in our country while reducing our national debt as well as the overall size of our government.

One of the first ways is to increase the efficiency of programs that offer public assistance. Some examples include having effectiveness measurements in place with goals set, making sure there are more programs designed to get people healthier and back to work (rather than our current sick-care industry that keeps people unhealthy and unproductive) and having forward progress requirements as part of the assistance. The goal for most of these people should be to get them back on their feet, but many have assumed the identity of someone who is incapable of fully functioning. I don’t say this to offend anyone, as there are of course cases where people do require a lifetime of assistance, but having worked in various parts of the non-profit and healthcare industries I have seen a large number of people who have become “disabled” by the system itself who would otherwise be perfectly capable of working.

Having less people on government assistance means of course greater productivity, which in itself creates more jobs and more taxpayers. Right there we start cutting the expenses while also increasing the income as a nation.

Another way is to reduce military spending. I’m not talking about a reduction of military personnel, which would cut jobs, but a reduction of overall spending. For example, some foreign policy makers and defense department personnel feel that we must have a continual presence in places that are not necessary. Another example is actually close to where I’m currently located, where there is a large artillery manufacturing operation that apparently builds, stores and detonates bombs on a continual basis. Is that necessary? There are other defense contractors that I’m sure are wasteful in their operations and spending that could easily be cut back.

An overhaul of our criminal justice programs and policies is a huge area as well. The United States has one of, if not the highest incarceration rates in the world, and there are over two million people behind bars in America right now. Amending sentencing laws and implementing better reform programs would not only cut the immediate costs of housing so many inmates, but also would dramatically reduce the re-offender and recidivism rates.

By reducing costs in many areas we would actually be able to start paying people who work in the military, or as teachers, police officers, firefighters and other jobs higher wages because there would be more money available for it. We would also have more money for building better roads and improving infrastructure for further economic growth and development.

There are so many examples of ways to cut costs and increase productivity that many people in the private sector can clearly see, yet the bureaucracy that gets our tax dollars for some reason cannot balance the budget or produce much positive change.

On a personal level, there are other ways to improve social change through non-profit work. People should be encouraged to volunteer and/or donate to non-profit organizations, especially those that are designed to help others help themselves, such as learning trades and life skills so they can be more self-sufficient and re-enter the workforce. If more people adopted the idea that we are all here to help and serve others in some fashion or another then there would be less need or greed and a much better society overall.

I think the bottom line is that WE are the ones who put people in office, and clear messages need to be sent to Washington, D.C. about what they are supposed to do. They work for US, but many of them think it is the other way around. Don’t believe me? Try going to Capitol Hill and see how many elected officials will truly listen to you, especially when there isn’t an election on the horizon. Even if you get a meeting at their D.C. office look into their eyes and see how well they are listening to what you have to say and understanding what you are telling them, or if they are instead just counting down the few minutes you have been allowed with some smiling and nodding. If you feel your Senator or Representative is really there and listening to you, then you’re one of the lucky few.

What are some of the ways you see we could cut spending and reduce our dependency on government?

Sometimes Doing the Right Thing Isn’t Popular

I’m pretty sure we’ve all been in situations before where the group agreement (i.e. peer pressure) is to do something that doesn’t sit well with you.

There are times where we have gone with the grain (counter to our own values) as well as against the grain (but staying true to ourselves), and vice versa.  I know I can think of many times where I should have done something and didn’t, or did something I later regretted.  However, as many of us get older, we become less worried about what others think and more concerned with what the overall purpose and intention is.

I recently saw Michael Moore appear as a guest on the Colbert Report, where he mentioned a time he regretted not standing up for a fellow student, and how he vowed to himself to not stand around and let unjust things happen to people without at least speaking up about it.  Now, regardless of what someone’s impression of Moore and his political and social agendas may be, I really admired this statement he made.

I have had haunting moments of not doing or saying something in defense of someone who was being harmed by another individual or group.

At some point it is worth taking a look at our own level of integrity.  According to Dictionary.com, the first definition of integrity is an adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.

If there is one attribute I would like to encourage most for young people in this world, it would be integrity, because having a strong social fabric made up of people like this means less of all of the negativity we have in the world today.  This includes everything from being good sports, to not cheating on exams, not abusing alcohol or other drugs, being faithful to your spouse, taking care of both the young and the old,  not lying or stealing, working hard, and many more in a long list of ideals.

Little things on a day-to-day basis can go a long way, and while doing the right thing isn’t always comfortable, it is the best way to be able to live with yourself, hold your head up high and interact with other people.

 

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